Being Your Own Best Friend

Being your own best friend is rooted in having compassion for yourself and truly liking who you are. Most of us have a time in our lives when we enjoyed our own thought process and doing things on our own. When was that for you? The next question is to ask ourselves, do we want to go back to the mindset and truly like who we are? If you are, then it is about putting in the work to do so, and that starts with recognizing and deconstructing the barriers that prevent us from returning to that mindset. If we allow ourselves to acknowledge that we can overcome our barriers and do have the ability to take down the walls that stop us from being our own best friend, we can succeed in doing so.

The process begins with honesty. The first bit of honesty we can give ourselves is asking, do we truly feel worthy of liking ourselves and compassion? Rationally, we will all be able to say yes, but it is the emotional answer that we need to pay attention to, and that usually is the “but” after the yes. I wish this knowledge was enough to overcome the “but”. If it were that simple, I would say to you “stop that,” and you would. No one wants to live a life in which they do not like who they are. We want to like ourselves and have peace of mind. Standing in the emotional place and seeing our emotional truth in that moment and recognizing that you are creating the barrier is powerful because that means you can deconstruct it and learn to love and cherish yourself and be your own greatest ally. Recognizing the building blocks that prevent you from truly loving your own best friend will allow you to take down that wall one brick at a time.

Posted on Monday: 10 July, 2023