Every couple is different, which is why we offer three approaches to couples counseling. While I generally recommend starting with individual sessions for each partner, some couples prefer to begin working together immediately. The best approach depends on your goals, the complexity of the concerns involved, and what feels most comfortable for both of you.

Option 1: Individual Sessions for Each Partner Before Joint Sessions

This approach begins with one individual 60-minute session for each partner before joint sessions. These meetings allow me to develop a clear understanding of the concerns contributing to relationship dissatisfaction, the dynamics between partners, and any personal or external factors affecting the relationship before moving into joint sessions. The one-on-one sessions help identify opportunities for meaningful change early in the process and allow me to better support both partners when working together.

This approach tends to work especially well when there are multiple concerns affecting the relationship, such as stress, family issues, work demands, mental health concerns, or longstanding patterns of conflict.

Option 2: 90-Minute Joint Session

For couples who prefer to begin together, we can start with a 90-minute joint session divided into three parts. First, each partner shares their perspective so we can develop a shared understanding of the primary concerns. Second, we identify practical changes each partner can make to improve the relationship. Third, we focus on an area of recurring conflict and develop communication and de-escalation strategies that can be used immediately.

Option 3: 60-Minute Focused Joint Session

Some couples have a specific issue they would like help resolving. In these cases, we can begin with a 60-minute joint session focused on a pre-agreed topic. The goal is to improve communication, increase understanding, and work toward a practical resolution.