How Improve Your Emotional Resilience

Our emotional resilience determines how capable we are when dealing with stress, trauma, or any type of adversity. How much emotional energy and creativity we have is in large part a reflection of how emotionally resilient we are. The more emotionally aware we are, the quicker we will be when identifying the factors that impact our emotional resiliency. For most people, the greatest contributor to their emotional resiliency is their ability to pivot. When we can pivot and shift our focus, we have a more resilient internal life because we are focused on problem solving and positive outcomes. When we consider our potential to create a positive outcome when faced with adverse dynamics and trauma, we become more resilient.

Knowing that we have some power no matter the dynamic allows us to see what we can do to impact outcomes and how we can pivot. The only person’s actions we can control are our own. Embracing our power begins with working the problem even when we are scared, feeling defeated, and anxious. This means having an internal dynamic that says “I’m scared but that is not going to stop me from looking for solutions.” This process can be aided by problem solving before going into any situation. For example, before starting a new job, knowing what you need to thrive in challenging work situations but also knowing what would make you want to leave a job. The same goes for relationships. In addition to knowing what would make you want to leave a situation, you also need to know how you will leave.

Owning your boundaries and respecting when enough is enough for you increases emotional resilience because you owning your power. Knowing that you can say enough and leave toxic dynamics improves our resiliency because we no longer have the expectation that we should suck up whatever negative dynamics we find ourselves coping with. Knowing we can leave and having a strategy for how we will leave is empowering. We don’t have to be stuck where we are at being drained for all of eternity. We can chose to change our life. The shift from settling to thriving can be challenging, but we can make the shift. Embracing that we deserve to have a peaceful internal life and an abundance of emotional resilience is a big step towards making the changes necessary to have more good days than bad.