Show Up for Yourself and Change Your Life

Showing up for ourselves looks different for each person. In fact, it looks different from day to day. This is because what we need to go after our heart’s desire needs to fit with what we need to do to survive. A big part of showing up for ourselves is about creating a stable base. Realizing that we need stability and that creating stability is an important aspect of showing up for ourselves is life changing. Having stability builds confidence and makes room for optimism and hope. Knowing that you are worthy of stability can be a process especially for people who grew up in chaos. Looking back on our youth, we can recognize if we are playing out historical trauma. For those who grew up in chaos, stability can feel very unsafe. For those who grew up in a very strict home with lots of judgement and expectations, stability can feel like it is not enough. Understanding how historical trauma or historical patterns can undermine goal setting unlocks our ability to course correct and create stability.

The process of looking at our history to understand our present is a big step in the right direction for showing up for yourself. Once we know the barriers to creating and enjoying stability, we can deconstruct them. Creating stability is how we start to take steps toward our goals and get used to showing up for ourselves. Assessing how stable our lives are can snap us out of autopilot and reconnect us to our present. This can be scary because looking at where we are now can be disappointing. I promise you it is worth it. It is often through our dissatisfaction that the greatest changes occur.

Identifying what is dissatisfying in your life will guide you in the work to discover what you want. Creating space to daydream and think about what your fully activated self looks like gives us a rough draft for the life we need to be the person we want to become. Focusing on the steps necessary to be who you want to be is showing up for yourself. Taking risks and moving through life with purpose will move us closer to our goals. Moving with purpose unlocks our potential and our creativity. Developing a positive inner voice focused on what you can be and the life you want to live will help you stay on the path to achieving your ultimate goals. It takes practice, and sometimes having a journal or note taking system can help stay on track. I promise that when you show up for yourself you will have more good days than bad. You will become the architect of your future.