There are 2 pieces of advice that almost every blog post about toxic family members gives, which I am also guilty of giving, and that is to set good boundaries and cut ties. I’m not going to give either of those pieces of advice this time around because they are not the only choices. Boundaries…

I’ve written in the past about how to tell if someone is toxic, and I think toxicity is so complex that is bares writing about again. One of the things I find most interesting about family and toxicity is that it is not always a fixed state. I am the last of 14 children, and…

Shame and guilt most often go together hand in hand and are usually attached to things we feel will allow others to judge us and find us unworthy. The seeds that grow into shame are planted within us at an early age. As a child, we look at the world and decide who we are…