Self-soothing is any behavior we do to regulate our emotions and cope with difficult feelings. Self-soothing can become toxic when we use substances such as alcohol, nicotine, and food to help us feel better. It is also harmful when we use emotional outburst or emotional retreat to regulate how we are feeling. Looking at your…

A lot of people I work with find that the reason for their unhappiness is delusional thinking. Non-bizarre delusions can be difficult to spot, but the effects are not. Individuals struggling with delusional thinking are quick to anger, have a low mood, and a general unhappiness. Delusional thinking leads to false narratives about who you…

Magnification and minimization are a part of automatic thinking. We all have automatic defaults. We all automatically magnify certain aspects of ourselves while minimizing aspects of others and vice versa. For those who are ruled by magnification and minimization, their default is to deflect and chose the magnification and minimization pattern that leaves them the…