I have always found it challenging that almost all of the popular literature on divorce vilifies women. This baffles me because scholarly research does not focus on gender in divorce. When examining why divorce happens, we do not take a gendered approach because researchers know that is reductive. Dividing divorce by gender denies that men…

As a therapist, I have a lot of conversations that center around the theme of prioritizing oneself. I own that I often fall into old habits that put me at the bottom of my own to do list. Putting yourself first often just feels wrong or impossible. On any given day, I can find least…

In so many of my own intimate relationships, I can slip into doing what they need to get their needs met, leaving me feeling unfulfilled, empty, and used up. This is true for mental, emotional, and physical intimacy. For mental intimacy, we far too often listen the way they want us to listen and respond…