Forgiveness is a very misunderstood psychological construct. When looking at what forgiveness is through the lens of psychology, we begin to understand that it is a process. Forgiveness is not acceptance; nor is it letting go of hurt and anger. Forgiveness is the process of deciding to do the work to unpack resentment. Forgiveness is…
When we hold onto past hurt, we are generally searching for a way to heal. There is a popular concept that if we get closure that we will have healing, and that is not accurate. The inaccuracy occurs when our ability to heal is dependent on the behaviors of others. Letting go of the past…
What we truly believe we deserve and what we truly believe we do not deserve are entitlements. For example, if a person has a deep seeded belief that they offer more in a dynamic than others, they will feel entitled to more praise, more recognition, and the like. If a person feels like they have…