When we hold onto past hurt, we are generally searching for a way to heal. There is a popular concept that if we get closure that we will have healing, and that is not accurate. The inaccuracy occurs when our ability to heal is dependent on the behaviors of others. Letting go of the past…

What we truly believe we deserve and what we truly believe we do not deserve are entitlements. For example, if a person has a deep seeded belief that they offer more in a dynamic than others, they will feel entitled to more praise, more recognition, and the like. If a person feels like they have…

A sad truth is that, by the time most couples seek couples therapy, the marriage is already over. In my experience at the end of a marriage there is still a lot of love and unresolved feelings that can make it seem like the relationship is salvageable when it is not. There is also the…