Permission structures are our internal justifications for the way we see ourselves and the world. How flexible and how ridged our permission structures are determine how easy or difficult it is to change. Looking at our core beliefs and how they were developed provides a pathway to deconstructing permission structures that are holding us back….

When we unpack the complexity that is disappointment, we find that it is a mix of failure to meet expectations, loss, betrayal, self-doubt, and anger. The level of disappointment is determined by which of these feelings is taking the lead. Failure to meet expectations, betrayal, and self-doubt are usually in the lead if we invested…

Fear is at the root of most of our negative emotions. It is meant to alert us to danger, but as our physical lives become safer it begins to focus on our perception of danger. Most perceived threats are not nearly as dangerous as our fear would lead us to believe. There are very few…