I’ve written in the past about how to tell if someone is toxic, and I think toxicity is so complex that is bares writing about again. One of the things I find most interesting about family and toxicity is that it is not always a fixed state. I am the last of 14 children, and…

Shame and guilt most often go together hand in hand and are usually attached to things we feel will allow others to judge us and find us unworthy. The seeds that grow into shame are planted within us at an early age. As a child, we look at the world and decide who we are…

I have always found it challenging that almost all of the popular literature on divorce vilifies women. This baffles me because scholarly research does not focus on gender in divorce. When examining why divorce happens, we do not take a gendered approach because researchers know that is reductive. Dividing divorce by gender denies that men…